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5 practical ways to improve your confidence

Imposter Syndrome

Feeling like you have no idea what you're doing? πŸ’₯ Newsflash - no one does πŸ’₯⁠


Imposter syndrome is REAL. In fact, it's in the dictionary defined as 'the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills'. Basically, it's a mindset in which we tell ourselves that we're not good enough. 🌧️⁠


Long story, but this affects women significantly more than men, and it means that women can often be their own sabateur.πŸ—‘οΈβ 

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We are statistically less likely to speak up in meetings, to push for payrises or promotions and can really get in the way of our own progress, allowing others to 'get ahead'.➑️⁠

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First thing to know is you're not alone - we all feel like this at one time or another. πŸ’–β 




1) Store positive feedback


To combat imposter syndrome we need to separate fact from fiction πŸ‘½β 


A useful tool to do this is using *drum roll please* The magic of an email folder πŸ“₯⁠


Step 1: If you're at work or uni, create a new folder in your inbox. If you're at school, find a spare notebook to write things down. Call it ':)', 'positive affirmations', 'love letters for myself'...whatever you like βœ…


⁠Step 2: When you receive an email/message that has some good feedback pop it in here πŸ“¨β 


Step 3: Having a bad day? You've got a handy catalogue of all the times you've been really great (everyone else said so). Keep it up. πŸ‘β 




2) Harness the power of communication


The way that we communicate (written or verbal) can project how confident we are to others.πŸ—£οΈβ 


Think of the confident people that you know and how they speak. Here's a few things you might notice🧐⁠

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  • They avoid hesitating - saying 'erm' or 'just'.

  • They project their voice.

  • They don't fill silences when they speak (great public speakers can command a room with silence.)

  • They might be the first to speak in a meeting or team discussion (there's research that this person will command the conversation from that point on).

  • They curate the narrative: instead of saying 'sorry I'm late to reply' say 'thanks for your patience while I got back to you'.🧑⁠




3) Focus your energy wisely


Know your 'no' ❌⁠


It's important to know when to say no at the start of your career because it sets a precedent for how you continue πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“β 


We think learning to say 'no' when you are taking on too much work is an fundamental skill for women to master. Take it from us that regularly working in the evenings, weekends or over holidays might feel like something you have to do at the start of your career, but it doesn't always pay off, and can lead to you burning out eventually. 🀯⁠


It's important to figure out early on what's right for you, where your boundaries are and find ways to communicate this with people around you. If you have too much work to do ask your manager to help you prioritise your list so you know what you need to focus on for the next day or so, and try to streamline your tasks to fit around that πŸ€“β 

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At the same time, it's important to know when saying 'no' might hold you back. We believe that learning doesn't stop when you leave education (we are still learning now!) so you have to make sure that you take advantage of the opportunities around you, especially at the start of your career. 🌏